This week, a blogger published a post that spoke of the dangers of Fat Acceptance in which they mentioned EAC. There are a few things about this thread that I think are important to address:
1) “Having become an ardent reader of these blogs, opinions bounce around my head waiting to be released. Many of these blogs seem to be intolerable of outside opinions so my thoughts/comments remain unpublished, this will serve as my outlet.”
This is a body acceptance blog, which means that it’s not the place to go on rants about dieting tips, obesity statistics, fat hate, etc. (aka “outside opinions”) which is why these types of comments don’t get past moderation. There are tons of other forums/blogs out there to talk about this stuff, but this is not one of them. I think one of the comments in this thread makes a great point about the need for tough moderation among those of us in the Fatosphere. She states:
“Furthermore, the reason that fat acceptance bloggers are so harsh to dissenters is because it’s THEIR blog. It’s their (and their members’ 😉 space to feel safe and secure; when obnoxious trolls spew vomit about how they’re all fat, ugly c*nts and concerned trolls cry, “we’re only worried about your health,” they invade that space. And that means moderation has to be stiff. Unfortunately, if a comment even sniffs of a troll (regardless of whether it actually is one), moderators delete it to protect their blog’s sanctity.”
I think she makes the point perfectly. This is our blog, it is a diet-free zone, and it is a fat phobic-free zone. We make it very clear on our How to Eat A Cheeseburger guidelines what we will allow through moderation and what we won’t. In a world where we are constantly bombarded with new diets, weight loss tricks and endless articles about health and weight, this is a place to fight against all of that in our own way. So, yeah, we don’t allow a lot of comments through moderation and it’s our prerogative to do so.
2) “From reading some of the comments in those fat acceptance websites… the message of living well is not being promoted. Simply being satisfied is. Satisfaction may be fine for adults not willing to change but in children it can lead to complacency which can be extremely dangerous later in life.” (This was not from the original post but a comment about the post by the poster).
I am not a professional blogger and I don’t get paid to do this. This is volunteer time that I put in to talk about what I’ve learned in order to help people to live better lives free of dieting and the pressure to be thin(ner) if that is what they desire for themselves. I am not interested in giving people diet, nutritional or exercise tips…there are a plethora of other blogs, websites, television shows, radio programs, (and the list goes on) out there to do that. So, I think I AM promoting a message of living well in my own way, and those who like the message of this blog tell me that on a daily basis (privately and publicly) and these include people of all sizes.
Also, ever hear of something called HAES?
3) But to me, here is the real danger of a post like this one: I noticed that EAC was getting quite a few hits from a random site so I went to check it out. What I found was a forum and in it a person who was making the other forum members aware of the FA movement. The person linked the “Dangers of Fat Acceptance” article and then linked one of EAC’s articles. Following the post in this forum were pages and pages of fat hate comments (which is why I have chosen not to link the forum here).
So what is the danger of posting about the dangers of FA? It leads to more fat hate. I realize that the author meant only to post about a few things that she/he did not agree with in her/his own personal space, which is totally understandable. It’s totally his/her prerogative to do so. But the dangers in publishing a post like this one are that instead of starting a healthy debate, it leads to fat hate and random, unproductive rants by people who probably haven’t the slightest idea of what they are talking about. Furthermore, its a personal pain because I have to spend more of my time spamming fat hate comments and the like which are mostly comprised of people calling me “fatty.”
So I’m sorry if your comments don’t get past our moderation queue but there is a reason for that. Its so we can protect the “sanctity” of this body acceptance space and that is not something we are willing to budge on. There are too many people (of all sizes) in this world who are silently suffering in their own skin and we hope that when they stumble upon our blog, they can find hope and begin a journey of turning their noses to the media and learn to love who they are. So if you don’t like the message of body acceptance and find it dangerous, I suggest new reading material.
(NOTE: I am getting on a plane in less than 24hrs and I am currently the only active mod for EAC, so if you don’t see your comment get through right away its probably because I can’t get to it, but I will by Thursday, August 14th @ 11pm EST. Thanks for your patience:-)
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